YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO IT ALONE

In all my work with clients whether they are coming to see me for sexual addiction or other issues, it is my intention to provide a compassionate, safe and respectful place for individuals to come to.  

How Do I Restore My Life As A Sex Addict?

It is my intention to assist clients to live a life of healthy emotional choice and integrity,  through intentional recovery work.  In my work with clients who are suffering as a result of sex addiction, I will use a two pronged treatment approach: the  task model as laid out by Patrick Carnes and family of orgin work .
 
STEP ONE:
When we meet I will explain how I work as a therapist and the steps that will need to be taken for recovery from sex addiction and codependency.  

STEP TWO:
Should you decide to work with me I will do an initial assessment.  One assessment will consist of taking a genogram of your family history to determine if you have suffered from neglect, sexual and/or physical abuse, lack of attachment and other possible causes of trauma. The second assessment will be through using assessment tests as developed by Patrick and Stephanie Carnes (SDI and PTSD).

STEP THREE:
Each session we will either work on the tasks from "Facing The Shadows" or we will do emotional work using EMDR or Gestalt therapy.

How Do I Restore My Life As A Partner Of A Sex Addict?

You are suffering from post traumatic stress syndrome. Research now indicates that partners experience post traumatic symptoms as a result of living with a partner with a sex addiction.  My role with partners is to provide support, validation and proactive healing for the trauma they are currently going through or have gone through.  Should you wish full disclosure in order to do full assessment of the damage that has been done as a result of the sex addiction, I will support you and guide you and your partner through the process of disclosure.  I will provide EMDR in order for you to recover from your trauma.  I will do a "genogram" to determine possible family of origin issues in order to provide a road map for your recovery.

How Do "We" Recover From Sexual Addiction and Can "We" Recover From Sex Addiction

I will do an assessment of your marriage with you and your partner, and explain the steps that will needed to be taken in order for your relationship to heal. Restoration from sexual addiction in a marriage will take time, trust has been lost, all rules have been broken and need to be reconstructed. Full honest disclosure will need to be addressed,  damage done to the partner will need to be expressed as will remorse from the "acting out" partner in order there to be some possibility of healing of the relationship. The tools I will be using is a combination of  my training with Patrick Carnes sex addiction model for couples, and Gottman's and Harville marriage and couples' training.  Courageous, ruthless honesty is absolutely essential in couples sexual addiction work.  I will provide psychoeducation materials through websites and reading materials and suggest the possiblity of linking up with other couples in recovery.  

In all my work as a therapist I use my compassion, training and professional knowledge,   plus 20 years of experience in the field and my experience as a client in individual, couples and group therapy to guide me in my work with clients impacted by sexual addiction and other traumas in life.